My dear Makena,
Have you ever noticed how your teacher first tells some things to the whole class, and then later comes and speaks to everybody individually in the class? Also as a parent, some things I need to tell all my children, some things are only for that individual child. Does that make sense? Do you think your teacher is less sincere because she tells some things to the whole class and some things to only you? Do you think your teacher is less sincere if she tells the same things to several different students? Maybe all of them needed to hear what that was. Is that "shameful"?
Makena, I mean you no harm; I am not out to offend you or insult you. Please, can't you see that? Do you think I am out to hurt you? Or maybe trick you? Lie to you? Or fool you? No. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Do you think you are less to me than Jamila? You and Jamila cannot be compared. You are completely different people. Also to me, you are. Some things of course are the same. You share a lot of similar circumstances: same parents, same gender, living in the same place, going to the same school (okay Jamila doesn't go to your school anymore, but you get the idea) and so on. But in terms of personality you are very different in most respects; in terms of history you are also different even if both of you have shared a lot of the same experiences. By that I mean that a lot of the things Jamila has done, you haven't. A lot of the things that are just so Makena, Jamila has never done. Does that mean that one of you is better than the other? No. You are both great - just different. What is better? Custard or ricepudding? Pistachio or white chocolate icecream? Both are pretty good, but nothing like the other. Can we agree on that? I love you very much Makena. I also love Jamila very much. That is just how it is. Is that okay?
Your Baba
PS. As for Jamila's passport, Jamila is old enough to take care of that. Leave that to Jamila. What she does with her things, is her business.
